Dating a man in his 50s
They’ll text me non-stop for an entire weekend, totally disappear, and then email me ten days later.“Rules Girl” tactics are common: don’t return phone calls or texts for 48 hours, don’t pick up the phone for scheduled phone dates, etc. The disappearing, the game-playing, the crazy expectations, the mixed messages? It protected me from ever giving any man of quality a chance to see me or touch my soul. He told us that he loves women, “if only they weren’t so complicated.” And he graciously gave me permission to publish his email because he wants to help women understand more about how men feel, what they want and don’t want.
(This is another “Bobbi’s right”, fifty-year-old guys hate that type of stuff.) A woman who will initiate a few ‘how’s your day going? His frustration and his feelings of helplessness and inadequacy? When I knocked down that wall, and learned some new things, my heart opened and my love came into my life. He wants to help us all make better human connections!
’ texts and return texts within a few hours gets moved to the top of my list just because it’s so rare. When it comes to dating and relationships, men and women’s experiences aren’t so different…unfortunately. Even if you don’t see yourself in his description, I hope just knowing the crazy dating gauntlet guys go through will help you have compassion and understanding.
And most of all, open you up to guys like LM who may not dazzle you on a date, but would make a fantastic partner or husband. He also took a lot of my advice about how to attract better quality women…and THAT he did! Do you see yourself or anyone you know in LMs description of the women he’s meeting?
I’m a 42 year old single male who recently left a 5 year relationship for various reasons, but mainly because I wanted kids and she did not.
None of us are getting any younger but please, there has to be more than this.
Dating when you’re over 50 puts you in a whole different category.